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Bar/Bat Mitzvah

Aaron's Bar Mitzvah

The terms bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah mean “liable to the commandments”. According to Jewish tradition, a girl reaches this status at the age of twelve and a half, and a boy at the age of thirteen. Generally, this is considered to be the age at which students develop the ability to take responsibility for their own ethical behavior.

Students work with the Rabbi and their Hebrew tutors to prepare for the day on which they are called to the Torah for the first time. The Shir Tikvah community welcomes these new members on behalf of Am Israel (The People of Israel).

Preparations at Shir Tikvah include:

  • weekly meetings with a tutor for a year or more prior to the event
  • 1-on-1 meetings with the Rabbi and staff
  • work on a Mitzvah Project
  • attendance at Shabbat services the year before the event

More information about the ritual and celebratory aspects:

Bar/Bat Guidelines

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 A Message from Rabbi Stone

The terms bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah mean “liable to the commandments”. According to Jewish tradition, a girl reaches this status at the age of twelve and a half, and a boy at the age of thirteen. Generally, this is considered to be the age at which one develops the ability to take responsibility for one’s own ethical behavior. Thus, one is eligible to become a member of the Jewish religious community in one’s own right. One is NOT “bar-mitzvahed” or “bat-mitzvahed”. It does not happen TO one; one must CHOOSE to become a Bar Mitzvah or a Bat Mitzvah.

It is worth taking a moment to consider what it means to become a Bat or Bar Mitzvah at Congregation Shir Tikvah. At Shir Tikvah, we are conscious that the historical reason for the ceremony of bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah is a response to the child’s personal decision to commit him or herself to participation in the Jewish community in general, and in the Shir Tikvah community in particular. The ceremony is an important moment in the life of the community, but the ceremony is not what makes the child a bar or bat mitzvah. The ceremony of calling your child up to the Torah marks our communal recognition of the new member in our midst, and a celebration of that fact.

As a way of recognizing the child who has chosen to participate in the Jewish community and to live life consciously as a Jew, she or he is offered the honor of participating in the regular congregational prayers, including the reading of the Torah and Haftarah, on a Shabbat morning. As well, the child is invited to participate in our congregation’s love of Torah study by preparing a d’var Torah, a short presentation usually offered before the Torah reading in which the child speaks of his or her own understanding of the story s/he is about to read from the scroll.

In addition, each child is invited to give thanks for this celebration in the traditional Jewish way of doing tzedakah in the form of a mitzvah project. While this act of tzedakah may take the form of giving a percentage of one’s gifts away, or asking all guests to send a contribution to the fund of the child’s choice, it should engage the child’s hands and heart as well. Children can choose from any number of service projects, including those offered in their schools. Any project can be interpreted from the point of view of Jewish ethics for the purpose of deepening the meaning of a bat or bar mitzvah celebration.

The ceremony of Bat Mitzvah or Bar Mitzvah is not a graduation from religious education, nor is it a performance into which so much should be invested that it can never be equaled. The ceremony is a metaphor for a door opening into the adult level of Jewish ritual life. Preparation for the Shabbat morning on which the child will participate in the prayers, the Torah reading, and the learning should be seen as the development of basic Jewish literacy skills in these classical areas of Jewish communal life. At Shir Tikvah, we take pride in the growing number of post-Bar/Bat Mitzvah members of our congregation, of all ages, who enjoy helping to ensure that the Torah is read respectfully and beautifully each week during our Shabbat prayers.

The celebration, then, is manifold: the congregation celebrates that another young person is demonstrating her commitment to our shared way of life; the parent/s celebrate that this child has reached an important level of ethical understanding about what it means to be connected to a community; and the child celebrates the first steps into Jewish ritual equality with the adult members of the congregation, and the promise of what it means to belong. We take this seriously as a time which can be very meaningful for the child, for the family, and for the congregation of which you are a part, and which embraces you in this journey.

Parent/s and children should make the decision together that marking your child’s commitment to becoming an adult member of the Jewish community in general, and the Shir Tikvah community in particular, through the ceremony of Bat/Bar Mitzvah, is something that the entire family finds meaningful. It is worthwhile to carefully consider the reality of the work involved, including the juggling of schedules that will occur, and make sure the family is ready to support the child in reaching this goal.

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